And everything nice?
Forget everything your family and friends told you ... we women aren't made of all that but what does come to mind is:
bloating.. aching...troubles of the family, laundry, kids and a plethora of other pressing items needing "her" attention. Add in the husband who feels neglected, the pets who didn't get fed until too late again. Parents that pressure "her" and feel she should conform etc etc.
One of the biggest things I was asked after I had our daughter was "So you ARE staying home with her right?" to which I replied for a while yes but after breast feeding I plan on going back to work full-time. They usually gave a surprised look and felt too uncomfortable to continue the conversation. Why must my motherly skills be based on being a stay at home mother? For all they know I could be one of "those" people who stays home, lets all chores pile up, sit on the couch watching soap operas and worries about what Mrs. Hoover is doing across the street while the kid sits on the floor in a dirty diaper.
Just for those reading this ... these are things that were issues for me about 8.5 yrs ago however, I see it still today and just felt like commenting on it :P
In our society as it is ... most families both parents have to work in order to make ends meet. For sure we're in that situation. Between kids, debt, utilities, rent, vehicles etc we're spread so thin it's not funny. Add in the expense of a new house and now you've got that as well. It's no surprise in my area why there are so many houses in foreclosure where the moms in their capris stroll up to pick up their children from school at 2:45pm, toss their hair flirtatiously in the wind and talk of the soaps that were on earlier and how they are missing one of their favorite shows. I say you should have invested in a good after school program, gone to work and maybe you wouldn't lose your Better Homes and Garden perfect house :P. These people tend to really think they are better than everyone else. They feel that since they "sacrifice" a career to stay home they are entitled to be praised for everything. Proove to me you're a GENUINE stay at home parent. One that is actively involved in their children's lives... go back to work when they're in school. I never did understand the fascination with staying at home AFTER they are in elementary school. Ok maybe the first year.. but come on ... until say 5th or 6th grade.
Go to college... get a degree you could do all kinds of things while they're in school.
Soooo a friend wanted some more blooggging.. hopefully this will quell his thirst for a time :)
I'm achy.. I'm uhm.. well we won't get into it atm but if you're a guy be happy you're a guy :P
ciao
~Z~
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Besides, if you didn't work, you couldn't support your super expensive whiteboard marker habit. Pshah!
Do your in-law's just not understand this?
lol at the time it was mostly my family not even in the in-laws. My family is very old fashioned in some of these ideas about child rearing. Plus being in the south that's just an added kick in the pants.
It also was friends and other people that knew us. It's a societal stigma. Maybe in 100 yrs it'll get better :)
I meant to add as well. An only child staying at home with the parent until they start school is VERY unhealthy for them psychologically. Children need interaction with other children in order to learn how to share, compromise etc. Otherwise you end up with a very spoiled, anti-social child with "only child syndrome".
I could easily argue both sides of the coin. For us me staying home 1 yearish with her was more than enough and we needed the money or living on the streets was going to be a serious possibility :P
~Z~
NO MORE WIRE HANGERS!!!!!!!!!!!!
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